I have been blogging for nearly 3 years now. I have guested posted on numerous blogs, I have had people guest post on my blog, and I have taken part in blogger polls and collaboration, but I still don’t really have any blogger friends.
Don’t misunderstand me here. I have made friends with some bloggers. I used to write letters to Vie Avec Charlotte and I am a member of numerous group chats on twitter which are specifically for teenage bloggers, but I find it really difficult to participate and I feel a little bit of an outsider. I know that I bring it upon myself, because I could put in more effort to speak to more bloggers and make more friends that are bloggers and strengthen the friendships I have, but here are my issues at the moment.
1) Talking over twitter can be frustrating
I like being able to talk to my friends using my voice. I struggle to form a connection with someone unless I send paragraph after paragraph to introduce myself and I need to receive paragraph after paragraph to get to know you. This makes it difficult because I don’t want to burden anyone with that much reading or writing.
2) It’s hard to know who wants to be friends with you
I want so many friends. I love making new friends and getting to know new people, but I worry that I might come on too strong and overwhelm the person I’m talking to. I also worry that I’ll start speaking to people who has absolutely no interest in making friends with another blogger.
I would love to have a blogger friend in America or Australia, but the whole distance thing would put me off, because there is a possibility that I would never get to meet you, and that would make me sad. I like the idea that if I make a blogger friend, one day we could meet up and go for coffee. Plus, I know that if I was that eager to meet someone, I would get on a plane and do it, but I don’t know whether other people would have that much motivation.
4) Fizzling conversation
What happens if you start a conversation with a blogger, and then it starts to fizzle. People are too nice to say whether it’s because they aren’t really interested in talking to you. Letting the conversation fizzle out is a lot easier, but I feel awkward, and it kind of feels like rejection.
5) Group chats can get too busy
The idea of a blogger group chat is great, but I have been a member of numerous blogger chats, and they can be very crowded. I was a member of a chat of about 40 of us. That’s a massive group chat by anybody’s standards, and the conversation moved so quickly that by the time you had typed a response to someone, the conversation had moved on and your point was irrelevant.
Overall, I really like the idea of having a blogger friend (or blogger friends), but I think it’ll take me to get over some of the above ideas before it’s something I can do.
What do you think? Do you agree with my above points? Do you have anything to add? Do you have any successful blogger friendships? Let me know in the comments.
Thanks for reading, I hope to see you soon.
Love, Ashleigh xxx